Couples who found love through dating apps share their tips.
Joy Ofodu, an actor and filmmaker, was intent on finding a boyfriend who could turn into a husband. When she became single in 2021, she first joined Bumble, a recommendation from friends. Joy also used apps like Hinge, BLK, Raya, Tinder, and The League over 18 months.
The process exposed her to wonderful people, though not without its share of horror stories. This prompted her to start the “Dating Unsettled” podcast to document her experiences.
Before meeting her fiancé Ivan, Joy had nearly given up on finding a match meeting her criteria. Yet, Ivan and Joy eventually connected and plan to marry. Four couples shared that maintaining an open mind and letting expectations go can aid in finding love.
Dating app landscapes evolve. Joy sees more fatigue among users today. Her advice: don’t let others’ negative experiences overshadow your own potential for connection. Surround yourself with those who believe in love. “Someone is looking for exactly who you are,” she says, urging perseverance.
Elizabeth, who met Joe on Hinge, notices the increasing “screen fatigue” in app users. Rapid content consumption parallels quick exits from dating apps. Her advice is to authentically express yourself. Joe advises against rigid expectations, which often lead to disappointment.
Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus recommends hopefulness, discernment, and emotional honesty. App users should understand and convey their values directly.
Tinder integrates features like “Are You Sure?” to curb harmful messages. Racism remains an issue, reflected in Apryl Williams’ writings on sexual racism in dating apps. Dr. Nikki Coleman warns against internalizing these biases and advises reporting offensive users.
Ashley emphasizes being open to dating beyond expectations, while Matt suggests accepting that partners might still be growing. Justin Garcia highlights the value in supporting each other.
Be genuine and precise about desires, advises Brian. For those exploring relationships, recognizing personal reactions can be a learning opportunity, adds Portia. Dating can be enriching beyond finding a partner.